It’s easy to get impatient in our singleness and desire instant intimacy from people. While instant intimacy may make us feel loved at the moment, it will later leave us more empty. Nothing can compare to intimacy with Jesus.
I was sick of being single and waiting on God’s perfect timing. I wanted to take things into my own hands so I began the quest for a man and downloaded Tinder.
Swiping right if I found him attractive and left if he was too creepy, I was making every decision based on looks. During this season in college, I was a believer but lacked intimacy with God.
Instead of growing in intimacy with God, I wanted instant intimacy with a man.
At the time I believed intimacy was only found in the love of a man, but I soon realized the feeling of that love didn’t last.
Have you ever sought out intimacy, yet remained unsatisfied?
Relationships aren’t bad, but they will never completely satisfy us. God designed us as intimate beings, so our desire for intimacy is normal, but we must fill that need with God first, not people.
Intimacy is found in Jesus.
Jesus says in John 4:13-14, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”
Until Jesus becomes our ultimate source of intimacy, we will never fully enjoy life and the blessings that God gives us. No one can ever love us perfectly except for God. We will always be left unsatisfied when we depend on others for love.
When we understand that we are fully loved by God, we take off the expectations from others to be our God. The reality is no one can love us like Jesus.
The cure to the temptation of instant intimacy is the love of Jesus.
There is nothing we can do for God to love us more or less. God sent Jesus to die on the cross so that we could be made spotless before Him. It is not by our works, but by grace that we are saved. Ephesians 2:8-9 says, “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast.”
Jesus loved us at our worst and died so that we could experience life to the fullest. He wants an intimate relationship with us but it starts with our understanding that we are simply loved by him.
We have a God who wants to speak and do life with us. There is no greater joy we could experience than seeing God revealed in our lives. The countless dates that I have been in cannot compare to the joy I experience with Jesus.
Do you desire lasting intimacy? Will you turn to God and devote to spending time with him?
Like in any relationship, it takes spending time with Jesus to grow in intimacy with him. If we want to experience an intimate relationship with Jesus we must devote our time in his word.
As we turn to Jesus in times of trouble, we give him the opportunity to comfort us with his words. If you’re struggling in singleness, feeling impatient, or wanting to take control, use that energy to seek God. Share with him your heart and ask him in prayer to experience his presence and love.
Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.”
The word of God has the power to transform our thoughts and heart. If we want to experience God, we must allow his word to do a work in us. Intimacy is about being one Jesus. The Holy Spirit will align us with his desire as we immerse ourselves in his word.
The enemy will try his best to pull us farther from God by replacing him with relationships that were never meant for us. The enemy’s tactic is to prevent us from experiencing the best intimate relationship we could ever have which is with Jesus.
I challenge you to read God’s Word as a love letter and spend time in his presence. Hold on to God’s promises and let it be the hope that keeps you going. So remember, say no to instant intimacy and run to Jesus.